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10 Things to say when your child says everyone hates them

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It can come as a shock when one day out of nowhere your child says that everyone hates them. Seeing your child struggle with the feeling that they’re not liked can turn your world upside down. It’s a sentence that echoes in your mind long after they’ve said it: “Nobody likes me.” You’re there, ready to wrap them up in your arms and find the right words to help.

Let’s walk through the steps you can take, from listening to their fears to guiding them toward brighter days. It’s about being their champion, their confidant, and their most trusted ally in navigating these choppy emotional waters. 

Together, we’ll uncover the source of these feelings, spot any troubling patterns, and take concrete steps to bolster their self-esteem and social connections.


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Understanding your child’s feelings when they think nobody likes them

Hearing your child say, “Nobody likes me,” hits hard, doesn’t it? It’s a big, heavy statement, and it’s hard to know just what to say. 

But take a deep breath and give their words space. The first thing to do is really listen to them. They’re sharing a big part of their heart with you. 

Here’s how you can help:

Identifying the source

The first step in understanding your child’s feelings is to identify the source of their distress. You look into their eyes and you see a world of hurt. So you sit down, right there, and you ask, “Tell me what’s going on, buddy?”

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You’re looking for clues, trying to figure out if it’s trouble with friends, feeling invisible at playtime, or maybe a class at school that’s got them tangled up in knots.

Finding out what’s at the root of their sadness is key. Once you know, you two can tackle it together, whether it’s finding ways to make friends, getting involved in fun after-school stuff, or maybe finding a tutor. 

It all starts with that moment, with you showing them that their worries are your worries too and that together, there’s no problem you can’t face.


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Recognizing Emotional Patterns

It’s also important to recognize emotional patterns in your child’s behavior. When your kid tells you they’re feeling lonely or they’re just mad at the world, it’s like a red flag. You start to see a pattern, like pieces of a puzzle coming together, and you realize this is more than just a bad day. 

Maybe they’re wrestling with something bigger, like a cloud of sadness they can’t shake off, or maybe there’s a storm of worry bubbling up inside them that makes them snap fast.

Seeing these signs, you know it’s time to step up your game. You might think about getting them someone to talk to, like a therapist who’s good with kids. Or maybe start doing some chill-out stuff together, like breathing exercises or finding that quiet spot in the park. 

And let’s not forget about fun — getting them into a hobby or a sport where they can just let loose and feel great about themselves.

You’re their biggest fan, their shoulder to lean on, and with you by their side, they’re going to learn how to get through these tough feelings. They’ll pick up tools to help them bounce back and stand strong, ready to face the world with their head held high.

Ten things to say when your child says that everyone hates them

1. I want you to know that everyone of us has felt that way at some point at school. I want you to know that you are not alone.

2. I will always be here for you and I want to you to know I understand how you are feeling.

3. I can tell you that you have so many people in this family who love and like you.

4. I’m here for you, and I want to understand what you’re going through.

5. We are here to help you figure this out as a family. Tell me more about why you reel that way.

6. It is perfect normal to have those thoughts. How long have you felt that way.

7. I love you, and I’m here to help you through this.

8. I believe in you, and I know how great you are. You have so many people who care about you.

9. How you feel is important. Can you tell me more about what has made you feel this way.

10. Let’s talk about what has been happening at school that made you think that nobody likes you.

Communicating Effectively

When your child comes to you, heart heavy with the belief that everyone hates them, it’s like a cry for help. You feel that ache in your chest, wanting to fix it all. But first, you’ve got to talk it out, really connect with them. Here are two ways on how you can do it:

Active Listening

When your child talks to you, showing you their world through their words and their silence, it’s so important to truly listen. 

Here’s what you can do to let them know you’re fully there:

  • Paraphrasing: When they tell you how they’re feeling, say it back to them in your own words, like “So, you’re feeling like you don’t have any friends at school?” It lets them know you’re really with them.
  • Clarifying: If they’re telling you about a tough day, gently ask them to share more, “What happened today that made you feel this way?”
  • Reflecting Feelings: Let them know you see how much this is hurting them, “I can see you’re really sad about this, and that’s totally okay.”

Just by doing these things, you’re throwing them a lifeline, showing them they’re not alone because you’re right there, really getting what they’re going through.

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Expressing Empathy

When your child says that everyone hates them, expressing empathy can help them feel understood and supported. Empathy is your superpower here. It’s about stepping into their shoes, and really getting what they’re feeling. 

Here are some ways to express empathy:

  • Validate their feelings: Let your child know that it’s okay to feel the way they do. For example, you might say, “I get why you’d feel upset about this. Your feelings are completely valid.”
  • Share your own experiences: Open up about a time you felt similar. You could share, “You know, I felt really left out at your age, too. It hurts, doesn’t it?”
  • Offer reassurance: It’s important they know this isn’t the end of the story. Tell them, “I know it’s hard right now, but we’re in this together, and we’ll find a way to make things feel better.”

It’s about showing them that their emotions are understood, that they’re not alone, and that there’s hope and help right there with you.

Find out if your child is being bullied at school

Hearing your child say that everyone hates them can really pull at your heart. It might even make you wonder if there’s something more going on, like bullying at school. 

To figure this out, keep an eye out for these signs:

Has your child recently been excluded from activities?

When your child tells you they’re not playing with their friends at recess anymore, it’s like a little alarm goes off. You feel a pang of worry. Are they being left out on purpose? It could be a sign they’re being bullied.

If they always used to talk about playing tag but now they’re spending time alone, ask them about it. Say, “I noticed you’re not playing tag anymore. What’s going on?” It shows them you’re paying attention, that you care, and that you’re there to help them through this.

Are kids making fun of your child?

When your child comes home from school, their eyes red and their spirit dimmed because someone made fun of them, you just can’t stand the thought of someone hurting them.

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Maybe they were teased about their clothes or called a hurtful name – these are big red flags for bullying.

It’s crucial to show them you’re taking this seriously. Sit down with them, look them in the eyes, and say, “Tell me what happened, I’m here for you.” It’s about letting them know they’re not alone in this, and that their feelings matter.

And then, it’s time to step up and take action. Reach out to their teacher or the school counselor. Get the full picture of what’s going on. Sometimes, talking to other parents can help too – they might have seen something or their child might be going through the same thing.

Remember, bullying is something no child should face. Your child has the right to feel safe and happy at school. You’re there to fight for that, to stand up for them and ensure they feel supported every step of the way.

Building Self-Esteem

When your child feels like they’re the least-liked kid at school, it’s a real heart squeeze. You see the light in their eyes dimming, and you know it’s a nudge to boost their self-esteem. 

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Here’s what you can do:

  • Cheer on their strengths: Point out what they’re good at, be it drawing, telling stories, or being a good friend. It’s like giving them a secret weapon against the tough times.
  • Encourage them to join in: Maybe there’s a club or a team they can be part of. It’s not just about having fun; it’s about feeling like they belong.

Seeing your child smile a little wider, stand a little taller, that’s your cue. You’re helping them see they’re worth a whole lot, and bit by bit, they start to believe it too.

Encouraging Social Activities

One of the best ways you can lift them up is by nudging them towards social activities. Whether it’s a sports team where they can high-five and cheer, a club where they can share what they love, or just hanging out with a friend, it makes a world of difference.

These moments with others can shine a light on the great person they are, helping them weave connections and see their own worth through the smiles and laughter of companionship. 

Positive words and fun times with peers can work like magic, turning “I can’t” into “I can” and “they don’t like me” into “I am liked.” With each step they take, with your gentle encouragement, they start to stand a bit taller, believing in themselves a bit more.

Got any comments, questions, or tips when your child says that everyone hates them? Share them in the comments below.


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